Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Robbery Suspects Apprehended
Monday, November 29, 2010
Parent Meeting Tuesday Night!
In a recent podcast, Dr. Fredisdorf is quoted as saying, "Another area of improvement this year will be communication with our stakeholders. Based on feedback from a recent parent survey, various communication systems are being upgraded to ensure communication is accurate, timely and convenient."
Seriously? It's time to walk the walk instead of just talking the talk.
Information on Tuesday's meeting is not posted on the district or elementary school webpages. We can't even find it in the last Friday packet either. In other words, they really don't want parents to attend.
Maybe school board members Beth Tegtmeier and Lisa Houk (the two people in charge of improving communication in the district) can help to ensure the district website is "accurate, timely and convenient," rather than spending so much time on a community newsletter featuring the board members that are up for re-election.
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Does the Shoe Fit?
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The Sociopath in the Office Next Door
What to Do When You Work With Such a Person
All of a sudden a well-running, friendly, effective group or company begins to disintegrate for no apparent reason. People start to become demoralized and dysfunctional, efficiency plummets, client service and sales suffer and convoluted mistakes are made, up to and including illegal behavior such as fraud and larceny. Employees begin to develop psychosomatic illnesses, sick time rises and the best talent starts to leave.
What used to be a great work situation turns into a nightmare.
More often than not this dysfunction can be traced to the entry of one new employee, perhaps the boss, his or her assistant, the head of HR or a new shop steward. And when you start to explore, you find that, though the person may look and act apparently normal -- even charming -- all those around him or her are suffering.
Four percent of the global population is made up of sociopaths, Dr. Martha Stout, psychologist and clinical instructor in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, tells us in her book "The Sociopath Next Door." That means one out of every 25 human beings has no conscience, no sense of right or wrong, no empathy, no ability to understand emotion -- no soul. Worse, while they can mimic emotion, they see other humans as mere pawns or saps, to be used for their benefit or amusement, or both.
Add that to the fact that science now is questioning whether there is any difference at all between sociopaths and psychopaths, and that those with narcissistic personality disorder also have some of the same characteristics (an inability to care about anyone but themselves), it means that "evil" is all around us, even at work.
Sociopaths lie with impunity, cast blame where it does not belong, humiliate and berate their direct reports or colleagues. They set up co-workers, betray confidences and undercut good work because it is a threat to them.
Some start life by killing small animals, while others are not that obvious. Regardless, they progress to more mayhem as they go. And, while some go on to become full-fledged serial killers, or Bernie Madoffs, others channel their efforts closer to home or the workplace.
Picture a new boss who comes in to head the sales department of a high-tech company. At first he seems too good to be true. Attractive, well-spoken and suave, he says all the right things and makes all the right promises.
Then things start to go off a bit. He starts blaming and humiliating individuals in public for mistakes they claim they did not make. He may target one or two individuals, or start playing team members against one another. Talk starts to turn sarcastic and hurtful. Jokes become nasty, profane and mean-spirited, while tempers begin to flare as shouting becomes more acceptable. Rumor and gossip flourish where little had existed before: "Did you know that X has a drinking problem? Y is leaving his wife? XY is really having a homosexual affair?"
People are rarely praised. And if they are, it is hollow. Client requests and needs start to be flagrantly ignored. And so it goes.
At first it is almost impossible to believe that one person is causing all of this trouble. And some people never believe it. One friend of mine described a co-worker who his team named "Mephistopheles," because he did seem to be the "second coming of the devil," and everyone saw it.
Wherever he went, trouble followed, but he skirted just above the ethical line. And he was successful in what he did. So, when I asked my friend if Mephistopheles was ever fired, he answered, "Oh, not for a very long time. They just let him pass. Eventually, though, he was caught up in a round of layoffs, because no one would defend him."
And this is the problem: The smarter the sociopaths, the harder it is to catch them. And, the more destructive they can become to individuals who interact with them and the organization as a whole. Who knows, you may have come in contact with them in your job already. I know that in my work as a crisis manager, I have. In fact, these individuals are often ground zero in creating the ethical crises that companies get caught up in.
Is there anything that can be done? Psychologists now think such behavior is prompted in large part by brain dysfunction, and that neither medicine, talk therapy nor any kind of treatment will ever work. (See the September/October issue of Scientific American, "Inside the Mind of a Psychopath.") The best thing that you can do when face to face with a sociopath is to avoid contact -- distance yourself, as far and as fast as you can.
Other suggestions, some adapted from Martha Stout's work, include:
-- Trust your instincts. If you think a colleague is a sociopath, don't go into denial; accept that this may well be so.
--Keep records. Many of these folks do their most damage one-on-one, so that if reported, it becomes "he says" vs. "she says." If legal in your state, you can capture some of this behavior on tape. At least save all your e-mails, phone messages and the like. Whether or not your use them, they will shore up your own sense of reality if you start to doubt yourself and your perceptions.
--Call the person out. In very savvy and careful ways, of course. If he or she has been lying about you, talk to others about it in a smart fashion: "I have no idea why he is lying so blatantly, but he's been going around saying X about me, and here is evidence that this is completely false. Why would he be lying so much? Have you seen other incidences of it?"
--Never, ever trust that person again. They will not change.
--Don't buy into others' excuses for them.
--Defend yourself. If you are targeted, talk powerfully with the truth. Never let a lie that you know of stand.
--Leave. It is a final resort, but if your organization does not see the light quickly, or if the sociopath runs the organization, do not wait too long. Justice does not always come swiftly, and this is why you have saved your money -- so you can leave a bad situation before it takes a terrible toll on you.
--Help and support others. You can be a beacon when they find themselves in similar situations.
We are used to fighting evil on the battlefield. But good people rarely can anticipate, or even recognize, evil behavior up close in the workplace -- until it is too late. One of the benefits of Martha Stout's book is that it helps us accept the fact that at least one out of 25 is a sociopath.
And the more we can accept that this does play out in the workplace, the more we can fight it on that front and the more we can minimize the damage. A good goal, I think, when faced with unconscionable behavior.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Predictions About the Standards Based Program
The school will put a halt to the Standards Based Assessment program until AFTER the election. Once the election is over, the school will get this program back on track. This will most likely take place in the summer when no one is paying attention.
Our district has spent far too much money and way too many hours on this program so far to let it go by the wayside. Every single meeting has been devoted to writing assessments. Consultants have been hired, materials have been purchased, committees have convened. This program will move forward...just not right now. Once the same old board is re-seated, this train will get back on the track.
We don't have an issue with this program. It is actually beginning to grow on us.
Unfortunately, parents are frustrated with the lack information and communication between the parties involved since this program began. Another frustration is lack of consistency and uniformity among grade levels, buildings, administration and staff in regard to the program. Parents hear one thing at the elementary school meeting and a different thing at the middle school meeting. Parents are told about the process of the program but an entirely different thing is done. For example, parents were told that re-takes would be optional. At the elementary school, they are not optional, but mandatory if a child gets any grade less than an A. Parents were also told that kids could do a puzzle, sing a song or tell a story to show that they know a concept. But is that option available to kids? We haven't see it yet.
How can the parents and kids know what is expected in this program if the staff themselves don't know?
Watch and wait until after the election to see if our prediction is correct.
Western Springs Students Learn About Honor Flights
Looks like students at St. John of the Cross may follow in the footsteps of Gurrie Middle Schoolers. Although those are some pretty giant shoes to fill! We are always proud of what the kids from Gurrie do for the WWII veterans arriving home on Honor Flights.
Below are some of the kids from Gurrie Middle School with their principal Ed Hood and "Every Monday Matters" club leader Lulu Kulaga at the October 26th Honor Flight Welcome Home celebration. Click on the picture to enlarge.
Western Springs students learn about honor flights
"I think the kids and the faculty at St. John really felt a great sense of relevancy to what I was saying," Rouso said. "They all have grandparents, great-grandparents and neighbors. They identified with this cause."
Since its inception three years ago, Honor Flight Chicago has sponsored 25 flights, taking 2,012 veterans to the memorial. Many describe the experience as a highlight of their lives. Flights take off from Midway Airport in Chicago in the morning. They return at night on the same day.
According to the group, there are an estimated 25,000 World War II veterans in the Chicago area, and there is a waiting list of more than 1,500, whose average age is 87.
Rouso has approached businesses and schools in the western suburbs, among them St. John of the Cross and Lyons Township High School. Both have agreed to join forces to raise money, $50,000, to sponsor a flight. That flight will bring 95 veterans to the memorial at an estimated $500 per veteran. The only cost to the veterans is the price of souvenirs they may choose to purchase.
"This is an 'it takes a village' sort of project,' " Rouso said.
The veterans are accompanied by volunteer Honor Flight Chicago guardians, who push wheelchairs and assist those veterans who may need help standing or sitting. The guardians pay for their own flights.
Rouso showed the students a short film on the organization and thanked "the next generation of philanthropists" for their willingness to help. She was accompanied by her daughter, Kailey, also a volunteer, who represented the Lyons Township Student Council.
At St. John of the Cross, fund-raising efforts will be spearheaded by the school's Student Council, sponsored by junior high social studies teacher Tom Clausing.
Pleasant Dale fox finds home in Palos
Pleasant Dale fox finds home in Palos :: News :: PIONEER PRESS :: The Doings Western Springs
Seriously?
Slide the cursor to 4:37 and pay close attention for a special treat!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Yikes!
Comments and Views
Below is a response to a comment left on our blog almost a year ago.
You said, "So "listening to everyone's voice" is really "listening to some peoples voice- what have you got to say (sic) only if we agree with you."
That is not true. We do not censor comments.
Only listening to some people's voices would imply that we delete the comments we don't agree with. We don't do that. If you'll look back in the archives to late March and early April, people slammed this blog right and left and we allowed every comment to stand. We still do, as long as people don't violate the terms of posting.
You will not find everyone on here in agreement with you, nor with us, and that is okay. One of our main goals is to improve communication in our school district and community and we are accomplishing that. Over 19,000 page views on our blog speak for itself.
We feel that this is a place for people to read about what is going on and to comment freely on what is posted whether they agree with it or not.”
Friday, November 5, 2010
District 107 investigating family's residency status
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Is there another name for kicking kids out of school?
These children were EXPELLED! They missed two days of school and would have missed even more if it were not for a community member that cried foul and contacted state authorities.
Wake up and pay attention to the spin, people!!
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Pleasant Dale Park Update
We want to congratulate Willow Springs resident, Mark Radulski, on becoming the new park commissioner, taking the place of former board president Brad Martin. Mr. Radulski grew up in the district and applied for the vacant seat in hopes of, "giving back to the community." We want to wish him a lot of luck on the park board.
We will continue to take issue with the park district on the lack of regard for its residents. It is up to commissioners Ernie Moon, Kevin Burke, and Mark Radulski to start moving the park in the right direction in regard to the open meetings act. Katherine Parker, under the direction of Colleen Pettrone and Wade Brewer, will not accommodate the residents of the district in this regard.
There is no reason that meeting agendas and minutes cannot be published online. Attorney Cainkar insists that the park district does not have a full time employee devoted to the website, but maybe he should take a look at the website. It was updated WEEKLY all summer and fall with sports scores. When asked who updated the scores every week on the website, Parker replied that is was Matt Russian, a full time employee.
Apparently, sports scores or more important than the board meeting agendas and minutes.
While Mr. Russian is busy updating the park district website with sports scores, maybe he can make a few other updates. Namely, here and here.